Men can't shy away from paternal duties
IMAGE: Cecilia Cheunghas, Hong Kong actress and singer »
A series of recent incidents has put the focus on the role of fathersin children's lives. Hong Kong actress and singer Cecilia Cheunghas accused her former husband, Nicholas Tse, also a HongKong-based actor, of spending very little time with their two sons.And action star Jackie Chan, known for his social responsibility,was unaware that his son had been doing drugs for eight yearsuntil he was detained.
In China, however, the failure to fulfill responsibilities is not limitedto celebrity fathers. As an expert on children's upbringing, I knowthat 90 percent of the parents who make it to parents' meetings aremothers. Also, nine of the 10 callers to the hotline of my magazineon child and adolescent studies are mothers.
A little girl's description of her father exposes Chinese fathers'ignorance about their children's growth: "I always thought that girlsare given birth by their mothers and boys by their fathers until myaunt had a boy yesterday. If all children are brought into this world by mothers then what do weneed fathers for?
"My dad goes to work early in the morning and comes back home late at night. Once he is home,he simply sits on the couch watching TV. He never brings me gifts like my mother does after abusiness trip. I feel like a year has passed if my mother goes away for even one day. Yet I don'tfeel anything at all when my father is away for months."
Article Credit: Chinadaily